i have been such a fail at blogging. plenty to blog about, but for some reason i am just completely worthless at it recently.

a couple of weeks ago we got a massive package from a friend of mine who lives in germany. she decided to give us all diabetes with a huge box of chocolates and candies from her homeland. she also sent a few very cute clothing items for vincent, and a couple of toys that he has already lost somewhere in the house.

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we went to a benefit dinner for ben’s brother’s father in law (phew that is a mouth full) and vincent got to have fun with other kids. older than him but since he’s bigger than most kids his age, he was able to run and keep up with them. seeing him get to have fun with his cousin who’s 3 was lots of fun.

vincent and his cousin tanmy cute kidclimbing a tree (with help from daddy)i don't even know

we have been trying to keep vincent outside as much as possible, as he is extremely energetic and does not like to sit down or sleep or do anything calm… letting him just run constantly outside is all we can do. he loves it, but i’m not an outdoorsy person so i’m not enjoying it too much.

walking up a slidedoesn't work too wellhe's gonna get methinkin about stuff...

halloween is swiftly approaching and i feel like the area i live in has really not made any effort this year at all. it took forever for walmart to put out the halloween things but the xmas stuff is already stocked and ready to go. this year for halloween we will be visiting the down town trick or treat celebration as well as checking out the “rich people area” since they are the only people who really seem to participate in real house to house trick or treating anymore. vincent will be stroller trick or treating because i am afraid someone will open a door and he will just walk in like he owns the place.

i’ve been playing a lot of world of warcraft in preparation for the new expansion pack and i cannot wait for new content! currently i’m finally getting up the guts to join LFR so i can kill garrosh and i’m also finishing up the instances and scenarios i haven’t already. of course its also hallows eve in world of warcraft so i am doing my daily run of killing the horseman… and still no horse. why do i continue to try and win this mount?? i just.. i need it dammit!

and finally we moved the house around and my desk is now in the living room instead of the kitchen which is nice. more air flow in here and i can watch tv while i work instead of being partitioned off behind the kitchen wall.

i meant to write but life has been busy.

august 30th my little boy turned 2. i can no longer call him a baby, if i do he shouts NOOOOOO at me.

instead of having a party this year, we decided to take him to the asheboro zoo which is about 2 hours away from us. its a beautiful place and a habitat zoo so the animals are comfortable, and not stuck in little cages. the only disadvantage is that they have enough room to hide making it kind of disappointing when half the animals on exhibit are somewhere you can’t see them. it was still a fun day and vincent got to see a lot of different animals and spend time with us and his grandparents.

vincent's birthday trip to the zoovincent's birthday trip to the zoovincent's birthday trip to the zoo

vincent's birthday trip to the zoovincent's birthday trip to the zoovincent's birthday trip to the zoo

vincent's birthday trip to the zoovincent's birthday trip to the zoovincent's birthday trip to the zoo

i am kinda sad that we didn’t have a traditional party but vincent didn’t seem to mind. i guess that stuff really is just for the parents until they are older. one thing we have all decided is that august is too hot to spend a whole day at an outdoor park where all you do is walk.. next year we’ll do something a bit more indoors i think…

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so recently i finally cleaned out the trailer and junky house behind it that resides on my parents’ old property. it was a daunting task as i was doing most of it by myself. i had the help of the neighbors (but they are elderly people) and my inlaws, but the major task, deciding what is garbage and what is treasure, fell to me.

in my mother’s later years of life, she became a hoarder. our house did not look like those houses on the show but the house behind our trailer that we used as a storage building (hence forth known as “the shack) was filled to the brim with her hoard. when i moved back in with my parents in 2007 i found that all of the items i didn’t get to take with me when i moved out, were placed into the shack, and then my mother refused to allow me access to the building in order to retrieve things. to keep from having an argument, i didn’t push it, and had planned to at some point, just go in there when my mother was not home. unfortunately during that time i fell into a pretty disabling depression which left me hiding in my room most of the time.

after mom’s death we finally cracked open the shack to see what we could find. to my dismay what we found was not what i was hoping for. everything my family had stored in the building was now covered in a layer of random crap. newspapers, magazines, random junk from flea markets, and the worst part… garbage… my mother had been lying to me, telling me she was taking the garbage to the dump, but in reality she was placing it into the front room of the shack. it was disgusting and overwhelming… there was no way we could clean it up at that time (it was winter and freezing cold) so we left it.

we sold the land to a neighbor recently, so we finally had no excuse not to finish digging important things out of the garbage. unfortunately while i was living with ben, my brother had allowed unsavoury individuals to live in our parent’s home. they made a mess of things and i found, much to my dismay, that they had allowed several boxes of IMPORTANT THINGS to be left out in the rain. it had been there for months. i live pretty far away and can’t drive, so i had no way to go down and check on things while these people lived there. i found a few items that made me very upset at them, and my brother, and currently i have decided that i am not interested in keeping family in my life. my brother is living with those same people who destroyed things and insulted his son. so he can call them family, because i am done.

i spent 2 days cleaning up what i could. taking things i felt were important, memories of my parents, memories of my extended family. i was very upset to find one of my father’s favourite portraits of his uncle was left to rot in the rain. it was completely faded out except for the painted on blue in the eyes of the picture. i found toys i used to play with, that vincent enjoyed playing with in the yard while we worked. we took them home and now they are part of his massive toy collection. it makes me smile to see them littering the floor of my kitchen.

at one point they found my father’s multi-tool. its this thing that has a screw driver, and a knife, and a set of pliers. its a silly thing and nothing major but it broke my heart. i stood there and cried my eyes out holding that. all of this was a terrible reminder that my family was gone, and all i have of them is stuff. it was hard to say “no that isn’t important” because everything was important… but i couldn’t keep it all. i gave a few random things to my inlaws, and a few random things to my old neighbors, because at least the items wouldn’t be destroyed with the buildings on the land.

on the happy side of things, i was able to finally find my scrapbook. its not one of those fancy scrapbooks with all the embelishments, just a scrapbook with a bunch of pictures and cards and funny things from my teen years glued inside it. it was something i never thought i’d be able to find in that mess and i am so glad i did. it has the first ever photo of me and ben, several photos from high school and the years right after. pics from my trip to nyc with the drama class, and various other keepsakes that i could manage to glue into a book.

i have some other blogs to write that aren’t as depressing as this. even though it was sad to clean out all of that stuff, and see the stuff that was lost, it also feels like a weight is lifted from my shoulders.

so a few days ago ben and i got the chance of a lifetime to view return to nukeem high, which is a troma film. if you have no idea what troma is, don’t look it up, because its gross. troma films are really bad B movies with lots of naked girls and sex and extreme gore. we love them and own quite a few of them. the creator of troma movies is lloyd kaufman and we were able to see his newest film, as well as meet him and talk with him!

the event was held at an awesome coffee shop called “geeksboro” which is in Greensboro NC. we drove almost 2 hours to see this thing!

lloyd was great. he is a really fun and genuine person. so humble! he would rather make a million B movies than 1 high budget film, and he loves his fans!

sadly the best photo of the night was ruined for us because the girl we got to take the photo was apparently very shakey and all the photos taken of us with him are blurry :( i’ll post one anyway but its so sad that i could not get a good photo with him!

at least we got to meet him! and i hugged him twice 😀 all in all an awesome night! part two of the movie is coming out in the fall and he hinted around that he would be back again for the second half so maybe we’ll get to take this pic again!

i have been failing at my blogger duties. this place has been dead for pretty much a full month. i have been working on some personal goals for myself lately and happy to report that i have achieved a few small goals towards my 2014 goal of being kinder to myself, and feeling better about my outward appearance.

i have bought a bunch of nice clothing that wasn’t plain tshirts and jeans, there are skirts in my closet! and clothing from hot topics! the kinds of things i haven’t worn or been able to afford in forever! being able to say yes i can buy this outfit at the mall is honestly really freeing…

i dyed my hair 😀 i’ve never coloured my hair, my mother didn’t allow it when i was young and when i was an adult i just never had the time or money to do anything. so with ben’s help i bleached and dyed my hair the colours of a peacock feather. Kinda obsessed with my hair now.

i love it. it looks so pretty in the sunlight!

while i haven’t been writing on my blog, i have been vlogging a bit. you can check my channel out if you are interested in that. lately i feel like its easier to just talk to a camera than sit down and write a bunch of stuff down. that said, i am not getting rid of my blog, and i do want to use it more often, i think the whole site needs an overhaul. i don’t need to sell advertising stuff anymore but i do want to do reviews just cause i enjoy doing them.

enough rambling, i have to do parent things.

we don’t really celebrate easter (at least not as a religious holiday) so i neglected to blog. this was the first year we made vincent an easter basket of sorts. actually it was more of a bucket. i didn’t want to buy him one of those prepackaged easter baskets because they are usually full of candy he cannot eat and toys he won’t like/can’t play with. so i decided to put together a bucket for him. he loves buckets. we have a few clean ice cream buckets that he carries around all the time, so i figured i’d get him a cute easter bucket to add to his collection.

the toys in the easter section of walmart were crap. pencils, tiny things he would eat and choke on… i got him a stuffed bunny and then went to the regular toy section for the rest of his bucket. the rest was comprised of a jake and the neverland pirates bubble sword, a captain hook doll that talks, and a weird owl toy that lights up with thrown.

easter bucket!

easter bucket!easter bucket!

i hid the bucket where he likes to hide. in the bottom cabinet of the thing we put the microwave on. he found it pretty fast 😀 all toys were played with for about 15 minutes and then we had easter breakfast (eggs, ham, sausage gravy and biscuits)

and that was that! when he gets older we’ll do more. i did plan to dye eggs and then forgot to boil them.. oops..

i’ve not had much to say blog wise lately. life has been happy and boring. we passed the 1 year mark since ben’s knee injury last year. i kinda held my breath in fear on the 8th as i’m a bit paranoid of stuff like that happening again. i do not want another 6 months like last year. ben has been building a storage building to replace the storage trailer we rented last year (which was taken away after his injury because we could no longer afford to rent it). with vincent walking around the house we really need to get some of this clutter into storage, so i cannot wait for this thing to be done! we have stuff piled everywhere that was originally supposed to be stored in that storage trailer.


the weather has been lovely and vincent has been outside almost every day. i’m starting to relax with him being outside and i don’t hover quite so close anymore, letting him explore a little without me standing right behind him.

in 5 days we will have a special visitor from australia! my boss is coming to meet me and we are going to take her to mayberry. its weird to think of that town as a tourist attraction when i grew up near it, going to the shops and restaurants down town all the time as a kid. i’ve got a little map and list of important tourist spots and we’ll try to see them all 😀

i am slowly working on project me. i bought a few things at the mall the other day and since then i’ve really felt the need to be successful at this. i got two pairs of pants from old navy and found out i fit in a smaller size than i originally thought it did. i got a couple of maxi skirts from walmart and i even bought some things from hot topic. now i am working on my portion control with food, and trying to not binge when i am stressed out. so far its mostly worked. i am trying to keep myself accountable with myfitnesspal.com and so far i’ve managed to log in every day for 19 days! definitely feeling dedicated lately.

and i’m vlogging, if you didn’t notice my last blog post. i don’t really have a schedule, and i’m not sure what i will be vlogging about. i am open to suggestions and q&a type things.

and that’s all i have to blog about for now!

after i got the plague i got a little lazy with blogging again. we’ve not really had any excitement lately, and the weather has sucked, so there’s been nothing to really say.

march is half over and i’m quite excited because april should be fun! ben’s birthday is on the 2nd, and then the 4th is our original anniversary from when we were teenagers, and we are mushy so we count it as if we never broke up. later in the month i will get to meet my boss for the first time in person! she has been traveling for a couple of months now, going to conferences all over the place and she is planning to stop by for a day. we are going to take her to mayberry!

vincent has been chatting up a storm and its hilarious. some of the things he tries to repeat come out sounding like other things.. which i giggle about.. because i am immature. but really after he got over the talking hump he has been going non stop! i’m so excited to hear him speak! we have been going through a lot of changes with him lately, including buying him actual plates and dismantling the crib!

the crib has been in our bedroom for so long, that now that its gone i feel like there’s this awful empty space on my side of the bed, i need to work on that at some point. vincent’s car bed finally has a mattress in it, but its not being slept in quite yet. the most i can get out of him is sitting on it briefly. we’re working on it.

this blog post feels like its missing something. so here is a cute picture of vincent.